Effective Strategies For Dealing With Pre-Wedding Jitters*

*This is a collaborative post*

Your wedding day is not just an enormously romantic occasion, it’s a paradigm shift. It’s the beginning of a brand new chapter in your life and it comes with real and lasting change. With this in mind it’s perfectly natural for both you and your betrothed to be plagued with pre-wedding anxiety. Both the enormity of the commitment itself and the sheer logistics that come with a modern wedding are so massive that you’d be a sociopath if you weren’t filled with anxiety. 
No matter how much you love each other, pre-wedding jitters (and while we’re at it even cold feet) are as much a part of the package as confetti and over-priced champagne.

But, just because everyone gets pre-wedding jitters, that doesn’t mean that they should ruin your big day. Here are some sagely psychological hints to help you manage them so that you can completely enjoy the build up, the planning and the big day itself.

Insure against mishaps

Despite everyone’s best intentions, there’s always a risk that something will go wrong. From the cake getting dropped to the bridesmaids’ dresses getting lost in transit to - Heaven forbid - runaway brides and grooms! You can’t preempt these things but you can guard yourself against the logistical and financial repercussions. Check out wedinsure to pick out a wedding insurance policy to guard yourself against mishaps that could cripple your wedding plans. Sure, it’s an extra expense but the peace of mind it affords you will play a huge part in allaying your wedding nerves.

Understand your anxiety

Anxiety is a perfectly natural human behaviour. It’s a survival instinct that protects us from danger. The key to mastering your anxiety lies in understanding it. Some anxiety can be good (it keeps you alert and mindful of genuine concerns), but it can also be bad (crippling our ability to engage with wedding planning and distorting the truths about the wedding). Help yourself to understand your anxieties by writing them down and going over them with your partner. You’ll likely find that your troubles are far more manageable than you thought but have been exaggerated and distorted by letting them fester.

Work as a team with your partner

Many people (but, let’s face it, brides in particular) need to assert ruthless control over every single facet of the wedding. Yes, of course it’s your big day and you should absolutely be actively involved in planning it but there comes a point where you need to take a step back and involve others - especially your fiance (it’s their wedding too). Trying to take everything on single-handedly will turn you into a stressed out ‘bridezilla’. Working collaboratively with your fiance as a team will make the planning a whole lot less stressful and a lot more intimate and enjoyable.

Focus on the positives

You have someone in your life who loves you and wants to spend the rest of their life with you. This is a whole lot more important than getting the exact right shade of blue for the groom’s cumerbund or what flavour the icing should be on your wedding cake. While the little dramas of planning a wedding can get you down, it’s important to focus on the positives to help you get the most out of this magical time.

*Post contributed by Sam Jones

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